I am very excited to share with you today’s marriage interview as a part of the 144 Plan to a Memorable Marriage. She is a, wife, author, and blogger who truly understands the challenge of loving your husband all the time and on purpose because she has lived much of her married life apart from her husband due to military deployments. I don’t want to give her story away so I better stop right there. All that to say, today’s guest has been an inspiration since my beginning blogging days and I am proud to call her a friend.
Carlie Kercheval is a happily married stay-at-home homeschooling mom. She and her college sweetheart have been blessed with 3 precious children to raise while traveling the world as a military family. Carlie is the founder of Today’s Frugal Mom™, So You Call Yourself a Homeschooler?™ and Managing Your Blessings. She is also the co-author of the Learning to Speak Life™ family Bible studies and co-host of the Learning to Speak Life™ Radio Show. When she is not busy enjoying her family and the great outdoors, you can typically find her cozied up somewhere under a blanket with a good book.
1. Tell us a little about yourself, your family, how you met your husband, how long you’ve been married, etc.
My name is Carlie Kercheval. I am a writer, lover of Jesus, an outdoors lover, and a blessed stay-at-home homeschooling mother to three precious children. I am married to the most amazing man I’ve ever known – Michael. I met my husband in 1998, while attending a college Bible study during our undergrad studies at Washington State University. We married in June of 2000, just one short month after we graduated from college. This year we celebrate our 14th wedding anniversary, and we are very proud of that!
2. What is your favorite thing about being married?
I love the companionship. It is so nice to have someone that you can trust and confide in, talk to, and be intimate with. I also love cooking with my husband, reading with him, and anything else we do together.
3. How do you prioritize your relationship with your husband above the kids, work, or other life stressers?
Through constant communication throughout the day. Even if it is a short text that says, “I love you”, I know that means the world to him. I do my best to make sure that he knows I love him more than the circumstances that may arise from time-to-time.
4. What is the toughest challenge you’ve gone through as a couple? How did you “solve” it or “get through” it?
For us, I’d have to say all the deployments. They are just plain hard. We have spent over 5 years apart due to combat deployments and it is hard re-integrating at times. It is hard for him to adjust from being in a war zone to coming home to every day life and responsibilities. It can be difficult for me at times to hand things back over to him that I’ve been doing all by myself for a year. But we always get through it. We are committed to one another and the success of our marriage, and that right there makes ALL the difference in the world.
5. Do you have any tips or lessons learned from the bedroom that might encourage someone struggling in this area of their marriage?
Make time for it. Don’t leave it as a “last resort” on your never-ending to-do list. Make it a priority over the time suckers (computer, television, phone, etc) that can try to steal away that valuable time of intimacy from you and your husband.
6. How do you handle your finances as a couple?
We have always been the ones to budget down to zero finding a home for every penny. We always talk to one another if there is something we’d like to do “outside” of our budget. We have managed to live off only one income for over 13+ years this way. I am also a 4th generation frugal mom, so I know some amazing tricks to keep our expenses very low. I have a new website, Today’s Frugal Mom™ dedicated to teaching other moms how to live a frugal, debt-free lifestyle!
7. What is your idea of a fun yet frugal date night?
We have over 100 ideas we could share, but for now, I’ll just share our favorite one for the moment. We LOVE to go for walks together at night on the beach. We are blessed to live just 3 short blocks from the beautiful coast of California, and we definitely take advantage of that. We’ll walk down to the beach, grab a dessert or a cheap bite to eat on the water, and just walk and talk the night away.
8. What are your favorite resources for marriage tips and encouragement?
First and definitely most favorite resource is the Bible. We also read lots of books on biblical marriage, listen to teachings on biblical marriage, and attend marriage conferences as well.
9. What is the best marital advice you have received and/or could give?
The best marriage advice that I received was to keep God first. I know it sounds very generic, but there is so much truth in that statement. We’ve seen it prove true countless times throughout our marriage.
One piece of advice I always give those looking to get married is this: Do not marry your spouse for their potential. If you are not happy with who they are right now, at the present moment, then you are probably making a big mistake.
Have any marriage questions for Carlie?
Feel free to ask away in the comments below and/or connect with her on her blogs, Today’s Frugal Mom™, So You Call Yourself a Homeschooler?™ and Managing Your Blessings and/or via Facebook, Pinterest, and Twitter.
Take it to the next level with these resources:
- Intentional Marriage by Crystal Brothers
- The Irresistable Husband by Jason Gratehouse
- My Hubby Lovin’ Pinterest Board which includes everything from date night ideas to relationship builders and more.
This post is the 3rd of 12 in the 144 Plan to a Memorable Marriage. To learn more about the 144 Plan or catch up on a missed post, check out the complete 144 Plan Training Log.
Wives, be subject to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. (Colossians 3:18)